As I write this, I’m curled up in bed, thinking about the inevitable future, and wondering if situations will improve anytime soon. It’s a helpless state of mind; one that is disturbing my brain chemistry.
I’m in a rut.
Today just seems to have been my unlucky day, and why such minute matters tend to knock me right down is way beyond me, but that’s besides the point.
I’m here with some tips to help anybody in a similar boat out of that depressive rut.
Go outside, surround yourself with loved ones, and take your mind off it
Starting with the most difficult is a good place to begin, if you have the energy for it, that is. Don’t worry if you don’t, perhaps you need time for yourself! But if you can muster the strength to get out of bed and socialise, I recommend this first and foremost.
Not only does it help to surround yourself with people who love you and would bring joy to an otherwise sombre day, but fresh air is an aiding factor too! Spending days cooped up indoors is fine up until you find yourself tediously sick of the same four walls, breathing out negativity just to breathe it right back in. It can be dizzying.
Self-care, and lots of it
Chances are, you’ve probably been there – the lack of motivation to practice basic self-care and hygiene, the want to stay in bed all day and do nothing in particular.
However, much as it might not feel like it, taking a shower to freshen yourself up and showing yourself a little love can go a long way. If I don’t feel up to standing in the shower, I find that a nice bubble bath suffices nicely.
Make sure to take any medication you need, and eat and drink throughout the day. Neglecting your body can have a negative impact on the state of your mind.
Your furry friend is there for you
If you have pets, give them a little cuddle. You’re their human and it probably upsets them just as much to see you feeling so down. They love you unconditionally and would more than likely appreciate a cuddle just as much as you.
Not only does it soothe both the mind and body to give and receive cuddles, but it’ll also remind you that no matter how hopeless things might feel, you have this whole other creature who adores you with all their heart and wants to see you happy.
Partaking in your hobbies
It might be writing, knitting, reading, playing video games, or drawing. Whatever your hobby, do it. If it makes you feel as if you’ve done at least something today, do it. There’s nothing worse than beating yourself up during a rut for being unproductive, but if you do something you enjoy, I’d say that’s a perfectly productive day, and a reason to feel proud.
Try to avoid anything that might bring you back down
I’m convinced that almost everybody has that one song that just tugs at their heartstrings. For me, that seems to be my go-to song when I feel depressed, but god only knows, it doesn’t help.
Sad movies, songs, games, and books might seem like a good idea at the time; you can resonate with them and that’s always tempting, but your goal is to pick yourself up, not pull yourself back down. If you need to have a cry, let it out, but follow it up with an upbeat playlist, a comedic film, or an exciting game to boost your mood.
And if things feel too bad…
Don’t be afraid to seek out help. Be it a therapist, a friend, or a family member, there are people out there who truly care, and they will help.
Remember, depressive ruts don’t last forever, and you can overcome this. Like me, you should aim to remind yourself of that whenever you can.
Everything will be okay.